Much is made of the apparently ‘silent masses’ of male victims of DV. There is the “1 in 3” Australian campaign that maintains that one in three DV victims is male (with the inference that the perpetrators are female partners, and nor will I link to such propaganda), or the UK’s “Parity” campaign that 40% of DV victims are male.
All of it is rubbish of course. Just made up stats, or stats that are skewed in some way, like equating a strangulation and near-death experience with being ‘nagged’ to take out the garbage. This by the way, is not an equivalent.
No one can take these men seriously when they alter the facts and statistics to try and portray ‘women as violent as men’. It is blatantly not true. A cursory glance of the prison stats will reveal the truth, with can be extrapolated to other areas of violent crime. Well over 90% of the prison population is male, and most are in there for violent crimes. Of the women in prison, most are in there for non-violent crimes. So if you were to compare male violent criminals in prison to violent female criminals in prison, it would be far more like 98/2. Most of the women in prison are there for non-violent crimes, and very short sentences.
Of the women who do kill? Well, again, a very small category, and those killing their abusers, make up most them in some way. The NSW Coroner’s report on 10 years of DV homicides found that in the majority of cases where women kill partners, those partners were known or strongly suspected DV abusers. And ZERO cases of the “female abusers killing male DV victims”. At least 29 of those males killed were known or suspected abusers—over 10 years. Making just less than three men killed per year in NSW by female partners, and they were known/suspected abusers, killed by their female victims.
Yet every time you go to a Facebook or a news comment thread, there are apparently ‘loads’ of male victims of female partners. Or someone supposedly vouching for ‘someone they know’ where this is supposedly the case.
We call such outrageous and false claims as propaganda. Because it is clearly a distortion on reality. The reality that happens more than once per week in Australia, a male murdering his female current or former partner.
As it stands so far in 2015, somewhere between 50-60 women have been killed, or allegedly killed, by current/former male partners—making up the bulk of Australian homicides of women (currently around 67). That is a pretty clear pattern, around two-thirds of Australian women murdered by current/former male partners.
What about the flipside?
Oh yes, the male DV victims. Here is the known list, so far in 2015.
- 24 Jan: Corey Croft & Renee Carter, found dead at home. Renee Carter’s former partner arrested for the crime. Their 5yo son found unharmed at the scene, but spent about 24 hours in the house with his murdered parents. Carter had an older child with the alleged perpetrator.
- 31 Mar: Greg McNaughton, shot and killed, and his friend wounded by an alleged attack by McNaughton’s son, arrested.
- 06 Apr: Bruce Monaghan stabbed to death by his new female partner’s male ex-partner, in front of witnesses, so no allegedly needed
- 23 Apr: Saif Jouda, allegedly killed by his uncle
- 26 Jun: Stephen Cumberland and Jacob Cumberland (father and son) along with Rebecca Webb, were allegedly murdered by Webb’s ex-partner of a few months. The Cumberlands were offering her help to escape the abusive ex-partner.
- 03 Jul: Phil Walsh, a football coach, allegedly murdered by his son
- 18 Aug: Suyoung An, allegedly murdered by male flatmate
- 30 Aug: Jay Cerin, allegedly murdered by Cerin’s half brother. A female accomplice is also co-charged
So looking at the relatively short list of adult males murdered in DV circumstances so far this year, all were murdered, or allegedly murdered, by other males, with one case of a female accomplice.
Zero cases of female abusers murdering male victims.
All murdered by other males.
Whereas, most of the female DV victims were outstandingly murdered, or allegedly murdered by males.
There is nothing remotely like ‘parity’ in DV. Males are overwhelmingly the perpetrators. Females are overwhelmingly the victims. And that is why there is the focus on female victims of DV, far more likely to be killed in DV. The perps are basically the same group, males, in both cases anyway.
So whenever an MRA (“Males Rights Activist”) bleats on about “what about the male victims?”, the cause is still basically the same, male perpetrators. But they will always try to maintain, or infer, the problem is female perpetrators.
Most cases of male victim DV homicide are fathers killed by adult sons. Sometimes the other way. Or other male relatives like uncles killing nephews, or nephews killing uncles, or grandsons killing grandfathers, or even gay partners killing each other. Sometimes women are caught up in this, sometimes not. But male violence remains the primary root cause of DV and DV homicides.
There is no parity. Nothing remotely like it.