Not often do I ‘go off’ at (het) women, but the one time that I do, is their insistence that everything be either male/M2T ‘inclusive’. They need to wake up and smell the patriarchy on this one.
This post is really a follow-on after reading Meghan Murphy’s post on “27 years after the Montreal Massacre, misogynist violence remains a norm“. Not being in Canada, I was sad to read that Vancouver Rape Relief (VRR) was under attack yet again. Their ‘crime’ (again) was for being ‘trans exclusionary’.
Nothing could be further from the truth. VRR were actually ‘trans inclusionary’ (read: M2T) at a time when it was not popular to do so. Indeed, they were quite the vanguard in this respect, well before most women’s support organisations were, or MANdated to be, as most are now. Read the timeline at VRR.
The basic reason that VRR keep getting this ‘trans exclusive’ accusation against them, is because Nixon would not abide by the same rules for females (to take off at least a year between the counseling and enrolling in the training programme to counsel other battered women). Because it was a mere three months before Nixon turned up to enroll for training. The only mistake VRR made in this respect, was to cite the reason of ‘not having the same life experience as the female-born’, when in actual fact (apart from the life experience, which was still true), the primary reason is that Nixon fronted up for training three months after finishing counseling. Perhaps they thought citing this reason, rather than the three-month insistence on enrollment, would have been ‘saving face’ for the M2T. Nope, ‘red rag to a bull’ scenario – the worst possible excuse was given.
Either way, VRR were in the right. Females were expected to adhere to the “one year rule”. But Nixon, born and raised male, figured that rules for females did not apply to him (male supremacy thinking) – and ‘born and raised female’ should also not be a barrier to him (being born and raised male, this is completely dismissive of the female life experience). Either way, VRR were in the right, Nixon, the male-raised asshole, was totally in the wrong. But being male, he automatically assumed he was in the right, and instigated a more than ten-year legal battle against the organisation. The same organisation that helped him, when in need. That did not matter to him. It did not matter than he nearly caused the organisation to fold under this ‘never-ending’ legal assault. He kept going. To ‘prove’ he ‘was right’. Did he think about the women and children left vulnerable if the organisation folded? No! He kept it up. Ultimately, VRR did win legally on the peer-to-peer counseling front.
It is both ironic, and infuriating, that VRR continually get harassed on the ‘not trans inclusive’ front, when they absolutely were, to their detriment.
The insistence of het (including ‘bi’) women that ‘male allies’ or ‘trans’ (meaning M2T) be included in any feminist event or march. In essence, they are foisting their main/malestream ‘privilege’ onto all other women, who do not want to include males of any kind. What they do not know, have not experienced, are genuine female-only gatherings. The ‘energy’ (or ‘vibe’ if you will) is completely different to so-called ‘inclusive’ gatherings. This is why ‘trans activists’ spent so many years trying to shut down Michigan Women’s Fest, or at least, tried to infiltrate the festival. Men, males, cannot tolerate female-only gatherings. They absolutely KNOW that female-only gatherings will lead to women getting ‘uppity’ (ie feminist/liberationist) ideas, and potentially an end to male supremacy.
So why, why, het women, are you pushing this male agenda? Is it to look cool to your (probably lefty) boyfriends? It seems so. Here is the thing, you do not throw other women/feminists under the bus to impress your boyfriend, no matter how ‘yummy’ you may think he is. Your boyfriend, your choice, not mine, so stop shoving him in my face. Because unfortunately for you, you have been brainwashed into seeing only ‘the good’ in aforementioned boyfriend, and very actively, dismissing the bad. Those of us who have no interest in boyfriends, have no such agenda. We see them for what they are – at best, passive recipients of the patriarchy. And yes, they all do, even if they put a little face-time into SJWarrioring. Or lefty-duding. Same shit, different day.
“But we need male allies” you cry in defence. Nope! We don’t. The main directive of both the first and second wave feminisms were all about just getting the job done, and stopping pandering to the ‘male sensibilities’ – because there are none, at least, not in the mainstream or majority of males. Sure, males will give you some lip service as to how ‘in touch with their feminine side’ they are, and to ‘prove’ it, they will list the list of lefty causes. Lefty causes are NOT feminist causes. Sure, there can be overlap (by feminists), but that is not true of lefty male allies. Their main goal, is how much ‘pussy’ they can get from this spin. For the lefty dude, it is all about dick action without the consequences. RW dudes, it is about individual ownership. For feminists, it is ‘fuck off, NONE of you own us or use us in any way, shape or form”. That last part, pretty much the essence of what feminism is all about. It certainly is NOT about impressing your boyfriend. In fact, by using us (actual feminists) to score ‘points’ with your boyfriend, is fairly abhorrent. We don’t give a shit about him. But what we give a shit about, is how women and girls are oppressed as a class. Yeah, a bit more than just about you. Or your fucking dreamy Nigel. I give zero fucks on this subject. Zero. Fuck him all you want, but don’t include me on your path to self-destruction. Because this is what compulsory heterosexuality is all about, co-opting women’s energy and labour to serve the patriarchical objectives. I want no part in that. If you want to personally sacrifice yourself in that one, knock yourself out. Don’t include me, or other women.
‘Male allies’ have had six thousand years or longer to get their shit together. They are from the ruling class after all, so have more impact than females. Somehow, this Unicorn Theory, has not panned out, at all, other than lefty dudes sticking their dicks into gullible women. Funny that. The old ‘Boner Directive’. But yeah, you call it ’empowerment’ because you have the occasional orgasm. We call it being duped. The rest of them of course, are actively oppressing us by the beatings and rapings. It is a pretty low bar, to consider some dude ‘nice’ only because it does not actively beat or rape some woman.
I come back to Meghan Murphy’s post, that so many so-called ‘nice guys’ just ‘snap’ and kill women and children. So what does that mean? Do we women, go for ‘bad guys’ that won’t be doing what the ‘good guys’ are doing? False dichotomy. There is very little difference between either category. And that there, is pretty much the main problem. So-called heterosexuality is the problem. Males are not a species that can be trusted. Yes, ‘a species’. Because they are not remotely like women at all (even with all the faults of women, that don’t even come close). Or at the very least, you cannot tell a ‘good guy’ from a ‘bad guy’ until it is too late! If you scoff at that, go read some serious DV literature, because clearly you are clueless.
Oh yeah, the lefty dudes. Look at the Occupy movement. Rife with sexual assault and rapes of the ‘female supporters’ (clue: this was a men’s movement, you were there to serve). Or Egypt, where women “supporters” (although they were billed as co-activists) were also subject to sexual assault. Or any other lefty movement, including the US civil rights era, where women were made to take side routes (wtaf?). This is what lefty SJW dudes think of us. Make no mistake. We are the ‘tea lady’ to all their ‘important man business’ shit going down.
So, ‘inclusive’? They have NEVER been inclusive, other than to have us serve as handmaidens for their causes. And to make the point of where we stand, they rape, they sexually assault, even when we are ‘on their side’.
Why the fucking hell ever, should we ‘include’ them, court them as ‘allies’? When they have proven over and over again (and I seriously could have given a load more examples) that they cannot be trusted, they are not our allies. Furthermore, we should never be their so-called ‘allies’, when we are just rape fodder.
Don’t include males in feminist activism, ever. I really don’t give a shit how Nice Nigel you think he is, males as a class, cannot be trusted.
And if you foist your particular Nigel onto other female activists, you are actually supporting patriarchy.